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Harold Domanski NORTH MIDDLESEX — Harold Domanski (aka OW, Hal, Harry, Odub, Dad, Papa), 72, left his body on Jan. 21, 2020. He was able to fulfill his wish to die at home tucked in between Mount Hunger and Dumpling Hill, with loving family and sweet Moby at his side. Born in Jersey City, New Jersey, on Aug. 4, 1947, to Marcella Sheakoski and Charles Chester Domanski, OW spent a wonderful childhood growing up in Lyndhurst, New Jersey. His early love of baseball, biking and tennis stayed with him throughout his life and he enjoyed Jersey shore vacations with his many aunts, uncles and cousins. Harold graduated from New Jersey Institute of Technology (formerly Newark College of Engineering) with a degree in mechanical engineering. But his real passion was math and he quickly moved into the actuarial program at Mutual Benefit Life Insurance Co. and became an associate in the Society of Actuaries, an enrolled actuary and a member, American Society of Pension Actuaries. Train commuting time was spent over a chessboard and chess remained a passion. He was thrilled to see his grandsons now playing the game. He moved to Vermont to work at National Life in 1978, then later worked as a pension actuary for Blaze SSI. The company was at the Jersey shore and Harold became one of the early "telecommuters." Working from home allowed him the flexibility to be a Little League coach for Middlesex, to bike the Bear Swamp loop on his lunch break, to meet his kids when they got off the bus from school and to clear the land behind him to open up a beautiful view to Mount Hunger. In 1968, he met his lifelong partner, Maribeth, and captured her heart with a first date seeing Van Morrison at a tiny club in the Village. They shared their passion for Van Morrison for the next 51 years and added a lot of other musicians to their play lists. In this final year, jazz became a special comfort. With a mind for numbers, OW could quickly quote lyrics, the name of the group and which year that song was released. Hal was an avid, multi-topic reader. He loved getting book recommendations from many of his friends and loved exploring new ideas. As his ability to get out and about lessened and his physical world got smaller, his mental world seemed to expand. He loved reading about politics, ethics, history, sports, biographies and fiction, too. The New York Times was a must-have and his family spent many Sundays on vacations searching out a copy of the Times. He could never quite believe the NYT was just not available everywhere (now thankfully it is, with NYT Online). The internet also allowed him to stay connected to his close friends and family. He took on the role of family connector, sending out birthday messages and old family photos while Facebook kept him connected to friends at a distance. OW had that ability to find the silver linings in tough circumstances. When he had to make monthly medical trips to Boston, he became a member of the Museum of Fine Arts and loved planning which exhibits to see each visit. Sometimes, he had just enough energy for one exhibit hall, but always found it worth his effort. OW was blessed to live in a community with dear friends and neighbors who brought the world to him when he became home-bound. He was so thankful for all the visits with friends and neighbors and their discussions of politics, humor and grandchildren. Of all his names, Papa became the most dear. He adored his three grandchildren, Liam, Nolan and Maya. Time with them was precious and he loved every visit or FaceTime call they shared. He marveled at their uniqueness and beauty and hopes to stay in their hearts. OW is loved and deeply missed by his wife, Maribeth; their children, Jesse Domanski in Vermont and Marissa Domanski and partner Andrew Young of Asheville, North Carolina; grandchildren Liam and Nolan Domanski in Vermont and Maya Young in North Carolina. He is also mourned by his sister, Marsha Flynn of North Arlington, New Jersey; his brother-in-law and his sister-in-law of Manchester, Connecticut, Ed and Claire Trengrove; his loving nephews and nieces, Scott and Kerry Flynn in New Jersey, Jennifer Trengrove and Kate Stowell in Connecticut; as well as extended family and many friends. A service celebrating OW's life will be held later in the spring. For those who wish, memorial gifts may be made to Central Vermont Home Health and Hospice, 600 Granger Road, Barre, VT 05641; or MARC Inc. 151 Sheldon Road, Manchester, CT 06042. OW wished to express his gratitude to the many in the medical community who worked hard to help. In particular, thanks to Deb Codospoti, RN, and all the caring staff at Beth Israel Deaconess Hospital, Clinical Research Center in Boston.

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