Barbara J. (Scammell) Carr Smith MONTPELIER — Barbara Jean Scammell Carr Smith passed away peacefully surrounded by her loving family on March 16, 2020. She was 76 years old. Barbara was born on Feb. 15, 1944, in Bethel, to the late Forrestine and John Stanley Scammell. She lived on a farm in Bethel until moving to Montpelier, where she spent most of her childhood. She graduated from Montpelier High School in 1962, and followed her passion to earn a nursing degree from Vermont College in 1964 leading to her career as a nurse in Boston. On Jan. 18, 1969, she married Stephen Carr, of Barre, at Bethany Church in Montpelier. Stephen served our great country during the Vietnam War as a captain in the Army after graduating from Norwich Military University and was killed in action on Aug. 26, 1970. Barbara always cherished her memories of Stephen and was very proud of being a Gold Star wife. During her nursing career in Boston, she met and married Dr. Thomas Smith on Dec. 1, 1973, in Framingham, Mass. They raised two sons, Damon and Colin in Hingham, Mass., and after divorcing in 1995, Barbara settled in Norwell, Mass. She loved New England, but fell in love with Sun City Hilton Head when looking for a place to enjoy the next chapter of her life. She loved her life in South Carolina, where she played tennis, kept a beautiful home, and enjoyed her many friends. She joined The Church of the Palms United Methodist Church and volunteered in a variety of community outreach programs, benefiting local youth. Barbara was an avid skier, tennis player, and loving grandmother. Her family was the most important thing in Barbara’s life and she will be fondly remembered for making her trips up to see her grandchildren in Virginia and New Jersey, along with scheduling special trips to Disney World, Vermont and to Washington, D.C., to see the cherry blossom trees. Her grandchildren will always cherish the family memories she created by traveling to be involved in their lives. Barbara was predeceased by her mother Forrestine, her father, John Stanley, her brother Bob Shanks, and her husband, Stephen. She is survived by her sister Elaine Hudson and brother-in-law Dave; her son Damon and his wife Denise; her son Colin and his wife Megan; six grandchildren; and several cousins, nieces, and nephews. Due to the COVID-19 virus and required social distancing, a memorial service and interment will be held in Vermont at a future date along with a remembrance at the Church of the Palms. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made in Barbara’s name to The National Vietnam War Museum at https://www.nationalvnwarmuseum.org/

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sam hayward

I was lucky enough to be asked by Steve and Barbara to participate in their wedding. I had met Steve years before this when he made a delivery to my father's business in Fairlee, Vermont. I was wearing a Norwich T-shirt and Steve advised me that he was a student at Norwich. When I got to Norwich he took me under his wing and we developed a great friendship not only with Steve but his mother and dad Walter and Charlotte and his sister. It is through Steve that I met Barbara and was later asked to be in their wedding. Barbara was a tremendous person who had the patience of Job. Steve became the happiest that I'd ever seen him all thanks to Barbara. In the short time that I knew her. She impressed me as the most caring human being I've ever met. If she met you she cared for you. I can only imagine what a fantastic nurse she must've been. My wife whose name is Barbara as well and I visited Charlotte and Steve's sister Robin when I was attending a reunion at Norwich. My only regrets are that I did not stay in contact with her after Steve's death. She was the perfect wife to bring out the best in Steve and Steve voiced that same opinion frequently. The world has lost a truly fantastic person. Sam Hayward

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